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Judith Lai, Sydney
 

 

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In Memoriam


Dear Everyone,

Art Burroughes, Dorset Campbell-Ross, Cate Crombie, Shari Macree and Linda Rysenbry and have news which is sad and shocking for us personally and is deeply impacting our Australian NVC community as we write today.

On Sunday May 10th at 6.45 in the morning, while riding her bicycle, our fellow Certified NVC Trainer and friend, Milli O'Nair was hit by a vehicle on the highway. Mercifully, she died instantly.

Our hearts go out especially to her mother. Milli was intending to make lunch for her mother at midday on Sunday to celebrate Mothers Day together.

Milli was our local GCC representative. She was truly a pillar of the SEA&O (South East Asia and Oceania) Circle and the Australian Circle. With her abundant energy these circles were supported, nurtured and fostered into being.

Milli was filled with passion to create an NVC community and live and spread NVC. She was a member of 15 NVC groups/circles/committees. A prolific networker, she especially campaigned to create more support for non-certified trainers. Last week she participated in a conference call with 15 trainers here in Australia to explore starting up a non profit organisation to which we could all belong. All were invited to write their vision. Milli was the first to post:


"I dream of a community on the land in North New South Wales or South East Queensland. A place to be, to create and share our wisdom and love for each other and our planet. There is a center where people come to learn to 'fish' and go back into the world to contribute to world peace. This community is based on Nonviolent principles from Gandhi to Marshall, these skills are the bases we work from and are the glue which supports our awakening and movement towards Peace.

The Australia Circle I see as a networking and learning cyber portal. A place to share, co-create and strengthen ourselves to share NVC. We meet face to face a few times a year at our regional gathering and at a deepening NVC event to support and inspire our passion for NVC. We have a bi-monthly teleconference where we harvest our NVC journey all together, to learn and inspire each other. The SEA&O yahoo group is our email connection point, where we share anything we would like others in our region to know. We collaborate and have a schedule of Trainings Oz wide in a calendar on nvcAustralia.com. We trust, and have an online database with a bi-monthly newsletter linking everyone back to the website with the variety of Trainings on offer. We are orientated as a grass roots community group where people share what's alive with joy and ease. We have clear guidelines and are accountable for our contributions. We walk our talk and live NVC consciousness."


Milli’s whole-hearted commitment to embodying and growing her inner-peace and aliveness was boundless. Her tenacity in pursuing her vision for NVC and for the world was an absolute inspiration to each of us and many others.

In her biography on our national website www.NVCAustralia.com this shone through. www.nvcaustralia.com/milli_onair.htm

Becoming a member of the international community of CNVC trainers was a huge moment in Milli’s life – a milestone in her stepping into precious goals and dreams that she had held for years. Participating in this group met deep needs of hers to be able to play at a global level, for belonging and connecting to like-hearted souls, for support, community and friendship.

Despite the ups and downs of life, Milli had the courage to get up again after many knock-downs. It is a joy to to reflect in this moment of great tragedy, on how Milli truly triumphed in the last few years claiming her power in the world and becoming a formidable force for social change, always leading from in front and encouraging and challenging others to come on the journey with her.

There could be no truer friend than Milli. She would always show up and help when needed if she could. Her commitment to punctuality was legendary, and we will always appreciate this mark of her respect for others.

We are treasuring memories of Milli’s infectious, vibrant and playful laughter, her persistent attention to detail, her commitment to accountability, and prolific energy for all things NVC, in every way possible. If something was happening Milli wanted to contribute. We mourn not having the chance to continue our journey with our dear friend and colleague Milli and will miss celebrating with her, the coming to fruition of the many seeds she planted.

Local people in the Byron Shire area are especially remembering Milli's contributions in laughter yoga, and her alter egos, the cat woman and the fairy, bringing play, fun and joy to hundreds, possibly thousands of adults and children. The fairy and the cat woman made regular appearances at the local markets and events for twenty years, inviting children to play and receive treasures, crystals and gifts from her basket.

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REMEMBERING MILLI

Gatherings are being held around the country for sharing remembrances of Milli. One of these was on Monday night at Dorset’s when folk met by candlelight and spoke of the lovely times and the difficult times, the love and the pain, the light and the dark. People laughed and cried as hearts broke open with love.

Appreciation, gratitude and acknowledgments are flooding in from around the world.

Some people are sharing by writing on Milli’s facebook page, however we understand that people not previously added to Milli’s facebook network won’t have access to this. We have today set up an nvc community blog and invite anyone who wishes to gather virtually and record celebrations, honouring and mourning of our friend...

http://celebratingmilli.blogspot.com/

Milli's impact went far beyond Australia, as many of you will know.
We will be inviting those who wish to join us, to an international teleconference ceremony to mark the passing on of Milli. We will post the details here as soon as they are in place.


We regret not having shared this sad news with you on the network sooner and want you to know that we have been personally informing Milli's huge network of her death and have been receiving many calls. To avoid overwhelm we do not wish to receive individual emails in reference to Milli's passing. We would prefer that your acknowledgments and appreciation of her life and contributions be made on the trainers yahoo email group, and on the blog mentioned above.

Dorset, Art, Linda, Shari and Cate

 

MILLI' S SERVICE, held on Monday 18 June

Dear Friends and Colleagues,

The service on Monday was absolutely beautiful and I believe Milli would have loved it. It was an open casket ceremony. Everyone was able to pay their last respects, and support each other in the grieving process.
There was lots of rainbow peace flags outside and Milli was surrounded
by mountains of flowers and greenery under a huge red canopy. The hall
felt peaceful and warm, and there was a strong sense of her presence.
Her friends put flowers, rose petals, treasures, and their thoughts and
wishes for her written on paper in to her casket. There were lots of
adults and kids wearing fairy wings. The service had touching speeches
from John her partner, her family, and her dear friends. Her step father
said that the family bear no animosity toward the 18 year old man who
was driving the truck and send him their compassion. We listened to the
song Angel by Sarah Brightman. Many tears flowed.

After the service the celebration of her life continued - sharing food
and drink followed by music and dancing. I sang several songs including
"There is a Place" by Marshall and one I composed/channeled on the spot
for Milli called 'Let's get out of our heads.....and into our hearts"
which was well received. There was lots of community building and
connection - just what Milli loved - and lots of laughter too!

I was not alone in being amazed at the huge variety of circles that
Milli was a part of. I discovered that, as well as NVC, Milli was also
especially passionate about Laughter Yoga and Tibetan Buddhism.

She was named Milarepa at birth after the Tibetan magician/mystic who
achieved enlightenment in one lifetime. Her parents were both deeply
connected with many aspects of Tibetan Buddhism. As a family they were all involved in the creation of the Tibetan temple and retreat centre
here in Australia called Chenrezig, that they continue to support till
this day.

Milli made the pilgrimage to Tibet and hitchhiked to Mount Kailash where she made the circumnavigation puja. Her mother, Tara, told me that when she called Chenrezig to tell them of Milli's death, they replied that they already knew about it (not sure if someone else told them or they heard in some other way) and were conducting the appropriate ceremonies for Milli's soul to be supported on her transition through the bardos - the stages of death that Tibetans believe determine the next
incarnation. Tara, Milli's mum, has sponsored Tibetan children living
as refugees in Nepal for 40 years. Two boys she sponsored in the 70's
have now become abbots of two monasteries. So the same bardo ceremonies are being made in Nepal and Tibet - about 4000 monks are praying for Milli.

Her NVC friends came from as far away as Melbourne, Sydney and
Queensland to say their goodbyes.

Several friends and family mentioned that they had been contacted by
Milli since her death. One reported that she had experienced her death
as 'a bit of a jolt'. Another close friend who was deeply grieving on
the beach, saw Milli happily waving goodbye, standing between two
angels. She understood that Milli wanted her to know that it was time to
let go - and that she is happy.

Simultaneous gatherings in remembrance of Milli were conducted in Maleny (Queensland), Sydney, Melbourne and, I believe, New Zealand.

The bridge where she died has now been painted in bright rainbow colours by her friends. There are fairy wings tied to it and an altar nearby
where friends are leaving tokens of respect.

In remembrance of Milli's love, light and laughter,

Dorset
 


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P.S.

Newspaper links are below in case you would like to understand more about the accident

From the Sydney Morning Herald
http://www.smh.com.au/national/milli-onairs-happy-life-cut-horribly-short-in-freak-accident-20090512-b1d4.html

From The Northern Star
http://www.northernstar.com.au/story/2009/05/12/sleepy-driver-blamed-crash-killed-cyclist/




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International Trainers visiting  - 2009

Robert Gonzales

A Deeper Understanding of Needs

7 day training with Robert Gonzales, president of CNVC

This training focuses on the living energy of needs, establishing a clear pathway to identifying, then experiencing and cultivating this wonderful consciousness.

Robert's trainings typically sell out fast, so please book as soon as
possible if you intend participating.

Venue:
Mary MacKillop Place
7—11 Mount Street North Sydney 2060 NSW
(NB this is a change of venue)

Dates: 13-19 July 2009 inclusive.

More information   |   About Robert Gonzales

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